Namaskarams, In todays modern and womens liberated times,divorce is slowly becoming a reality around us in friends & relatives,not only among NRIs but also in India.Although it is still stigmatised in India especially SriVaishnavite practices,it is becoming an unavaoidable price of Westernisation & modernisation of India.More so for the thousands of Brahmins going abroad in lure of green notes. Please give an enlightening insight into how our Hindu tradition,especially Vaishnavite culture views it in terms of Karmaphala,Paapam,Pariharam & Praayschitham for those who already arevictims of this painful folly. Would like to take this opportunity to also congratulate the people behind this site for the quality of content and great service rendered to Vaishanavites throughout the world for this wonderful and enlightening site. Regards Vijay
- Vijay asked 9 months ago
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Answer: Marriage, a thousands of year affair, with good progeny and a healthy generation to continue – has now reduced to shameless act of divorce. In many cases, the give and take policy in day to day life is becoming one sided affair, only take and no return. This can safely be said in the case of both partners. Moreover, the freedom given to the younger generations from the childhood days are, in many cases misused to find their own way, rather than accepting the traditional way of finding a partner. In some cases, the marriages are fixed by the younger, then approved by their parents! This is in contrast to the traditional way, where elders decide on this matter. Just because they were brought up in an atmosphere and circumstances, where the traditional values are forgotten. Nevertheless, parents themselves are to be blamed in many cases, as they did not bring them up within their fold and never thought of teaching them the values and ethos of our own culture. Ego and personality clashes, differences in personal nature that causes the splits rather than accepting and adjusting to the reality; Not giving any value to the progeny and future generation thoughts. In all my researches within our community, what I found is, the most astonishing factors that I list below: 1. Economic freedom and employment opportunity with higher pay slab causes to gain upper-hand; the trend is mostly reversing the home maker status is now to be the other way round, if not sharing the burden. 2. Many feels, settling in overseas, mainly in the US of A with a green card is sole concern and for this sake, they do not mind cheating! By hoock or crook, their interest is to land and avail the card. Then the drama unfolds. I am telling this fact, that even among the boys are it is their dream. 3. If born and brought up in a high rich families, these trends are some how escapes; the middle class families dreams are too high to state here. But the lower middle and economically lower families are some how coping with the situations to stick together, rather than going for a divorce. 3. Parting and divorcing has become a norm with some elite families that I observed all along. May be, they think it is a kind of social strata that they choose or ignore the values to their personal benefits. 4. I know a family in the US, whose wife deserted her husband after 17 years of living with him; that too having two grown up children, now with their father. She just left only to get more rich and married an American willingly! Leaving behind her own issues, a boy of 14 years and a girl of 16 years. Just for sheer luxury life style. I am worried, where these sort of marriages will lead them to. It is a shame to the humankind that for sheer lust for money, luxury & comforts they sacrifice ethical values and break the bondage. I do have an idea of analyzing this specific factor in a separate page, under the lifestyle articles on this social stigma; in every possible ways and means, that we need to organize and avoid such breaking in bondages. A solution ought to be found out for this sort of dilution, that will be acceptable to every quarter.
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